An advice column for folks who don’t like to be told what to do

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Dear FEM,

I was thinking about your letter when I woke in the…


An advice column for folks who don’t like to be told what to do

I found this heart, frozen under ice, during my last potent grieving. I began to learn then not to freeze my grief by ignoring it or avoiding it, but instead to let it flow. I’m still learning.

Dear Friends,

I woke up this morning in the firm grip of grief, and as is so often the way with me, I happened upon an article that spoke directly to my condition. This NPR piece, The Importance of Mourning Losses (Even When They Seem Small), offers wisdom on the necessity of making space for grief, and the courage required. In the interview, which I encourage you to listen to in its entirety, therapist David Dafoe talks about how we normalize healthy grieving:

It takes a…


An advice column for folks who don’t like to be told what to do

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Dear WTF,

I was talking to a friend yesterday about the nature…


an advice column for folks who don’t like to be told what to do

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Dear BBN,

Is your question whether or not you are being overly discreet in not asking your family member who is transitioning how things are going, or whether or not you’re…


an advice column for folks who don’t like to be told what to do

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an advice column for folks who don’t like to be told what to do

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An advice column for folks who don’t like to be told what to do

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An advice column for folks who don’t like to be told what to do

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An advice column for folks who don’t like to be told what to do

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An advice column for folks who don’t like to be told what to do

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Asha Sanaker

Asking questions, telling stories, giving my people information they can use to make change happen.

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